Saturday, October 29, 2022
9:00 AM to 2:00 PM PST 


8:30 - 9:00        Registration (Coffee, tea,)
9:00 - 9:20        Welcoming Remarks & Introductions
                         Ortal Kirson-Trilling, Psy.D., PCPG
9:20 - 10:20      Paper: Oedipus for Everyone:
                         Revitalizing the Model for LGBTQI
                         Couples and Single Parent Families

10:20 - 10:35    BREAK
10:35 - 10:55      Discussion of Paper
                           Gary Grossman, Ph.D.

10:55 - 11:10     Shelley Nathans, Ph.D. and Gary
                          Grossman, Ph.D. in conversation
11:10 - 11:45       Audience discussion
11:45 - 12:45       LUNCH (included)
12:45 - 1:25        Breakout groups
 1:25 - 2:00         Audience Discussion


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Brower Center
2150 Allston Way
Berkeley, CA 94704

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Registration/CE Information

4 CE credits included in admission price.

PCPG is approved by the California Psychological Association  to provide continuing professional education for psychologists. PCPG maintains responsibility for this program and its content.

We accept registrations for in-person attendance up through the same day as the event; however, to guarantee receiving a catered lunch, you must register online by October 19, 2022.

For virtual attendees, the registration deadline is 9AM (PST) on October 29, 2022.

Cancellation/Refund Policy

Registrants who cancel prior to October 15th will receive a refund minus a $40 administrative charge.
No refunds will be allowed after October 15th.
Transfer of registrations is not allowed.

Learning Objectives

  1. Participants will be able to describe the heterosexist bias of early Oedipal theory in psychoanalysis.

  2. Participants will be able to describe and apply a contemporary view of the Oedipal triangle to same-sex, gender fluid and single parent couples and families. 

  3. Participants will be able to describe how problematic triangulations may also be present in single parent households.

In Person COVID Guidelines for 2022 Annual Lecture

 These guidelines are meant to comport with the CDC, Alameda County, and the Brower Center guidelines regarding Covid.  They are based on the current status of cases and transmission rates (September 2022).  They may be subject to change if cases and/or transmission numbers are increasing at the time the lecture occurs.

Q: Do I need to be vaccinated to attend the Annual Lecture in person?
A: Yes. We ask that all in-person participants be vaccinated. Boosters are not required to attend in person. 

Q: Will PCPG ask for proof of vaccination to attend the Annual Lecture in person?
A: No.  In-person attendees will be on the honor system regarding vaccinations.

Q: Will PCPG require attendees to wear masks to attend the Annual Lecture in person?
A: No.  We recommend wearing masks if you prefer, but we will not require attendees to wear masks.

Q: Can I wear a mask if I want to?
A: Yes. Please wear a mask if it will help you feel more comfortable. 

Q: Will masks be provided? 
A: The Brower Center has a limited number of masks available but not enough for everyone attending in person. We encourage you all to bring your own masks.



The Annual Psychoanalytic Couple
Psychotherapy Lecture 2022

Join PCPG for our Annual Psychoanalytic Couple Psychotherapy Lecture in-person at the Brower Center in Berkeley, CA, (available online as well) as we host Shelley Nathans, Ph.D., and discussant Gary Grossman, Ph.D.

In this presentation, Dr. Nathans will present her paper, “Oedipus for Everyone: Revitalizing the Model for LBGTQI Couples and Single Parent Families", where she makes the case that the misguided application of Oedipal theory has led to the pathologizing of those with different gender identities or sexual orientations. Despite this harm, Oedipal dynamics are often viewed as a central organizing schema for understanding the dynamics couples and families. In this presentation, Dr. Nathans will revitalize Oedipal theory, divorcing it from its historical heterosexist bias, and highlighting its relevance for working with all relationships, including LBGTQI couples and families. Rather than using classical Freudian Oedipal theory which situates Oedipus in the psychosexual development of children, a contemporary Kleinian/Bionian model will be used  to orient the discussion to the relevance of Oedipal issues in adult relationships.  Problematic Oedipal dynamics are not always present, but when they dominate or underlie adult relationships, they can be stifling, destabilizing, and destructive. This perspective emphasizes the importance of considering Oedipal triadic structures when working with diverse couples and families. Clinical vignettes will be used to demonstrate the application of this theoretical point of view.

NOTE: In-Person admission price includes morning/afternoon coffee as well as catered lunch.

 Shelley Nathans, Ph.D.

Shelley Nathans, Ph.D. is on the faculties of The California Pacific Medical Center, The Psychoanalytic Couple Psychotherapy Group, the Psychoanalytic Institute of Northern California. She is the director and producer of the film, Robert Wallerstein: 65 Years at the Center of Psychoanalysis. She is on the international advisory board of the journal, Couple and Family Psychoanalysis and is President of the Board for the Psychoanalytic Couple Psychotherapy Group.  Her publications include “Oedipus for Everyone: Revitalizing the Model for LBGTQ Couples and Single Parent Families'' (Psychoanalytic Dialogues, 2021); “45 Years” ( fort da, 2018); "Whose Disgust is it Anyway?: Projection and Projective Identification in the Couple Relationship, (Psychoanalytic Dialogues, 2016); and Infidelity as Manic Defence (Couple and Family Psychoanalysis, 2015).  She is co-editor (with Milton Schaefer) of Couples on the Couch: Psychoanalytic Couple Psychotherapy and the Tavistock Model (Routledge, 2017) and the editor of the forthcoming book More About Couples on the Couch: Approaching Psychoanalytic Couple Psychotherapy from an Expanded Perspective (in press, Routledge 2022).  She is in private practice in both San Francisco and Oakland, California.

Gary Grossman, Ph.D.

Dr. Gary Grossman is a psychologist & psychoanalyst with over 40 years of experience working with gay and queer men as individuals and in couples. He is a Volunteer Clinical Professor of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences, UCSF and a Training & Supervising Analyst at the San Francisco Center for Psychoanalysis, where he also chairs the Psychoanalytic Education Division.  

Dr. Grossman was the Chair of the Committee on LGBT Issues (now known as the Committee on Gender & Sexuality) of the American Psychoanalytic Association from 2000-2005, and served on that committee through 2016.  He is on the Editorial Board of the Journal of Gay & Lesbian Mental Health and a Co-Editor of the Sex & Gender Section of Psychoanalytic Terms & Concepts (Auchincloss & Samberg, Eds.), published in 2012 by the American Psychoanalytic Association and Yale University Press.  He has taught and presented locally, nationally and internationally on psychoanalysis and psychotherapy with queer and gay men. He is in private practice of psychoanalysis, psychotherapy & consultation in San Francisco.

PCPG embraces and is striving to embody the principles of DEI.
We offer tuition or registration reductions  to facilitate these goals.
Please contact us for more information. 


Niki Clay
PCPG Administrator

PCPG Community Education Committee

Ortal Kirson-Trilling, Co-Chair
Romi Mann, Co-Chair
Laurette Schiff Gennis
Sharon Tyson
Gergely Foldesi