Love in this World and the Other:

The Dark Night of Love 

11th Annual Love in this World Men's Retreat

Ojai, CA

“Love gives you a sense of meaning, but it asks a price.  It will make you into the person you are called to be, but only if you endure its pains and allow it to empty you as much as it fills you.” 

--Thomas Moore

   Much has been said and written about the sweetness of love but we tend to push aside the bittersweet aspects and, ignore, deny, or flee from the purely bitter.  Yet what is a love that only basks in light and sweetness?  Surely it is incomplete and lacking depth.

            We want to acknowledge the darker sides of love, the aspects that give it richness, fullness, complexity, and mystery.  We believe that it is these aspects the soul longs for, as much as the riotous joy of amorous ecstasy.  And yet, how many of us, how many times, have baled out on a love that gets too sticky, difficult, or arduous?  We long for the sweet times but steer away from the parts of love that can really make our soul come alive and grow: the harrowing, disturbing, even ugly parts of love that take us through ordeals we would never chase after.  It is such ordeals in love that hone us, heal us, and transform us into the men we are destined to become.

In the slaughterhouse of love, they kill

only the best, none of the weak or deformed.

Don’t run away from this dying.

   Whoever is not killed for love is dead meat.



Friday July 8, 2016 at 7:00 PM PDT
Sunday July 10, 2016 at 12:00 PM PDT

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This retreat will be led by Richard Palmer, Doug Von Koss, and Tom McGee.  It will be held in a private residence in Ojai, overlooking the Ojai Valley and close to hiking trails that go into the nearby mountains.  Food will be provided.  It will be necessary to bring pillow and blankets or sleeping bag for those who stay overnight.  Those residents of Ojai who wish to commute will have only a short distance to travel.

We look forward to seeing you and sharing this wonderful work together.