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April 29, 2018 9:00am - 4:00pm
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Lenfell Hall, Fairleigh Dickenson University, Madison, NJ  

 
 

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Cathy Van Voorhees 
Center for Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis of NJ 
973-912-4432 
cppnj@cppnj.org 
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New Jersey Couples Therapy Training Program (NJCTTP)
New Jersey Couples Therapy Training Program (NJCTTP)
a Division for Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis of New Jersey (NJCTTP)

Polly Young-Eisendrath, Ph.D 

April 29, 2018 - 9:00am to 4:00pm 

Falling in Love and Taking it Personally: Couples Relationships in the 21st Century  

Intimate and reciprocal love between adults – in marriage and committed partnerships – is in many ways more problematic and unhappy now than anyone thought it would be after decades of struggle for gender equality and sexual freedom. Marriage has moved from being a vow of impersonal loyalty (“in sickness and in health, untildeath do us part” for the sake of the family and property) to a vow of personal desire (“as long as this meets my needs”). In fact, partners now feel almost obliged to break up if their image and values are no longer reflected in the other person: “How can I be with someone like this?”

Commitments based on desire, equality and reciprocity are destabilizing because they require on-going negotiations of conflicts and needs. We may all feel more secure in a hierarchy in which one or the other person makes the decisions. But we no longer want hierarchy in our personal lives. We want to be equals and to be respected. We want to be witnessed and held in mind, to be found desirable and cared for.

This presentation will introduce you to personal love and its first stage of development when a partner becomes the “intimate enemy” as disillusionment gets trapped in toxic unconscious communication. Effective couple psychotherapy must then address the problem of chronic projective identification and the necessity of creating a differentiated space in which each partner feels confident and free to be respected and autonomous, even in the midst of emotional security. As an intimate enemy becomes an intimate friend, personal love becomes true love.

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Learning objectives:  At the conclusion of the presentation, you will be able to:

  • Define “personal love” and describe how it differs from an attachment bond, romance, and traditional contractual marriage
  • Describe the movement from personal love to true love in which both partners experience themselves as able to witness and to be witnessed, to accept limitations and flaws in self and other, and to remain interested in each other over time
  • Define “projective identification” and apply the definition to helping couples create a “mindful space” for dialogue
Target Audience:  Suitable for Psychologists, Social Workers, Licensed Professional Counselors, Psychiatrists, Advanced Practice Nurses, Graduate Students, Marriage and Family Therapists.  
Level of Program Sophistication: Intermediate – some prior knowledge is required

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POLLY YOUNG-EISENDRATH, Ph.D., is a Jungian Psychoanalyst, Psychologist, author, and speaker. Sheis Clinical Associate Professor of Psychiatry at the University of Vermont, founding faculty at thVermont Institute for the Psychotherapies, and past president of the Vermont Association for Psychoanalytic Studies. She is in independent practice with individuals and couples in central Vermont. Polly is the originator of Dialogue Therapy, a time-limited couple therapy that integrates psychoanalysis and mindfulness and helps couples move from disillusionment to intimacy.

Polly is the author of fifteen books, as well as many chapters and articles. Her books have been translated into more than twenty languages.  Her most recent works are The Present Heart: A Memoir of Love, Loss and Discovery (Rodale, 2014); The Self-Esteem Trap: Raising Confident and Compassionate Kids in an Age of Self-Importance (Little, Brown, 2008); and The Cambridge Companion to Jung: New and Revised, of which she is co-editor with Terence Dawson (Cambridge University Press, 2008). In 2018, Shambhala Publications will publish True Love Ways: Relationship as Psycho-Spiritual Development, Polly’s new book which sets out the principles of Dialogue Therapy for a general audience.

www.young-eisendrath.com 

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Cost: $165 at the door/$150 pre-registration by April 15

           Candidates: $85/$65; Students with ID:  $35 (includes light breakfast and lunch for all) 

CE’s: 6 CE’s for Counselors, Psychologists and Social Workers

ADA accommodations available upon request; Requests required at least 14 days prior to course start date.

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 For counselors: CPPNJ has been approved by NBCC as an Approved Continuing Education Provider, ACEP No.   6863. Programs that do not qualify for NBCC credit are clearly identified.   CPPNJ is solely responsible for all aspects of the programs.

For Psychologists:  CPPNJ is approved by the American Psychological Association to sponsor continuing education for psychologists.  CPPNJ maintains responsibility for this program and its contents.

For Social Workers: This program is co-sponsored by the New Jersey Society for Clinical Social Work, which provides leadership and support to clinical social workers in all practice settings. The New Jersey Society for Clinical Social Work has given voice to clinical social workers dealing with the health care industry. The organization provides outstanding continuing education programs and opportunities for collegial contact. www.njscsw.org  

 For further information or registration, please call 973-912-4432,

 visit us online at www.cppnj.org, contact us by email (cppnj@cppnj.org)

 or at CPPNJ 235 Main St. #184, Madison, NJ  07940