Facilitators:
Paula Willoquet has a Masters in French Literature from UC Santa Barbara and a Ph.D. in Comparative Literature from Indiana University. She was first introduced to Nonviolent Communication (NVC) in 2009. Since retiring from a 30 year career in higher education, Paula has continued to learn, practice, and share NVC, working with individuals, groups, and organizations to foster greater connection and understanding. She has been studying with NVC-Certified trainers in the US and internationally, and is currently training as an NVC mediation facilitator. Paula also facilitates monthly Dream Groups using the approach developed by Rev. Jeremy Taylor, called “Projective Dream Work.” Paula is from Brazil, moved to the US in the late 1970s, and has enjoyed living in Burlington since 2013. She serves on the Board of the Vermont International Film Festival.
Paula can be reached at paula@pathwaystoconnection.net and through her website pathwaystoconnection.net
Facilitated by Paula Willoquet
Behind every human feeling there are universally shared needs. And behind every need there is an opportunity for authentic and meaningful connection. Among our most deeply held needs are the needs to be seen and heard, welcomed and respected as we are, no matter our differences of opinion, political orientation, cultural heritage, etc. What would it feel like to deepen our connection and relationship to others, even across the gaps that often open up when we hold different perspectives?
This 90 minute practical workshop offers an introduction to some of the principles and practices of nonviolent, compassionate communication, a fundamentally spiritual approach to communication developed by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg. Through an interactive process, we will practice deep listening and reflecting, guessing the feelings and needs behind the words, making requests rather than demands, and even hearing the “yes,” behind a “no.” The focus of our practice will be on empathic connection and understanding, rather than on judgment or agreement. In the words of Marshall Rosenberg, “Peace requires something far more difficult than revenge or merely turning the other cheek; it requires empathizing with the fears and unmet needs that provide the impetus for people to attack each other.”