Friday, November 18, 2022 at 7:00 PM PST
Saturday, November 19, 2022 at 8:30 PM PST

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302 Columbia St NW
Olympia, WA 98501

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This event will be held at Fusion, 302 Columbia St NW, WA 98501. Click Here for the Fusion website.

This is an opportunity to gather and support each other in community to release grief, feel support and connection and heal our tender hearts. There are so few places in this culture where we can bring our strong emotions. Many of us yearn to unburden ourselves with others, but find ourselves alone with our grief all too often. This is a place where your tears and heart-ache are welcome. The ritual includes talking circles, singing, poetry, movement, practice in sacred listening, witnessing and being witnessed, ceremony, sharing food and quiet time.

The heart of the retreat is a ceremony inspired by Sobonfu Some. Our work is also inspired by the Five Gates of Grief from Francis Weller: 

  • Everything we love we will lose, 
  • the places that have not known love, 
  • the sorrows of the world, 
  • the things we cannot even name that we ache for, and 
  • intergenerational or ancestral grief.  

We will lean in together and trust, surrender and open to vulnerability as we remember how to grieve in community.

The Spiritual Famework for this ritual includes time-honored and earth based modalities, utilizing the power of drumming and chanting, the belief that the natural world is a rich place of inter-connection with “all our relations,” and the importance of working with the unseen realms, including our ancestors.                        

Facilitators Laurence Cole and Mary Hart  have been involved in grief tending in the Pacific Northwest since 2002. Each brings unique gifts to the group.      

Laurence Cole is a well-known song leader and respected elder with long involvement in grief work, men’s work, and many other aspects of healing and enlivening the human spirit. He has been co-facilitating Grief Retreats since 2009 and was blessed to have experienced this ritual with Sobonfu Some. In addition, he has been offering a ritual called “Grief Song,” at singing events for the past 5 years.

Mary Hart brings her commitment to authenticity, vulnerability and transformation to the team. She is trained in Internal Family Systems therapy, Hakomi therapy, workshop facilitation, The Wheel of Consent and is a personal coach.  She has participated in many healing rituals over the years. In 2014, she was introduced to Grief Ritual and began mentoring with Therese Chavret, Tere Carraza and Laurence Cole.  Since then, she has helped to create and facilitate many healing rituals. She has sought and studied with many great teachers and has been inspired by the work of Sobonfu Some, Richard Schwartz, Krishna Das, Stephen Levine, Jon Kabbat Zin, Francis Weller, and many others.


Friday November 18th  7:00pm - 9:00pm
Saturday November 19th 9:30am - 8:30pm

Cost                                                                                                                      $150 Early-bird*/ $175 after Nov 1, 2022
We don’t believe in barriers to healing spaces.  The cost of this ritual should not be a barrier to you if this space is calling to your soul.  That being said, the cost of this ritual is so that facilitators and organizers may be resourced.  We are committed to making this work accessible to a wide variety of communities; especially cash poor and working class people who are on the front lines of social movements and community work.  Limited sliding scale slots and two work options are available. *To receive Early bird rate, payment in full must be completed by Nov 1, 2022  

Covid Protocols 
Masking will be optional and your choice respected. Please do not attend if you have any covid-like symptoms or have been exposed to covid within a week of the event. 

More Information
For More Information Contact Mary Hart and/or Ronny Temple

Before You Register Laurence and Mary would like to have an idea of who is coming, what (if any) experience you have with grief ritual, and what grief you are carrying. Please Click Here, when you register, to let them know. Thanks!